Friday, July 23, 2010

while we wait...

1. Caroline has finally conquered her fear of water in her face and is swimming under water. So proud of her. Now she is asking to take swimming lessons again.
2. Cathryn has mastered backstroke and freestyle. She is also reading at 1st grade level, at 5 years of age. We are proud of her too.
3. We have been attending a new church, and meeting 'new' friends. God is good all the time. It was very difficult for us to leave our friends at our other church but God's ways are always better than ours.
4.I am starting to knit little hats for the babies in Bulgaria's orphanages. When we finally get to go to Bulgaria i will leave these little hats at Calvin's orphanage. It makes me sad to think of these little ones cold, so hopefully these will keep their heads warm. My goal is to knit a hat a week. Once I get 30 hats done, I will be brave enough to knit little sweaters.
5.I have ordered all of Cathryn's curriculum to homeschool her this year for kindergarten. We will be doing 'handwritting without tears', math u see, All about spelling (reading program and spelling), and Bible.
6. We have been raspberry and strawberry picking. Love strawberry jam and raspberry pie. Blueberries are next.
7. Vacations coming soon, can't wait.
8. Missing and praying for Calvin. Praying for his safety, physically and emotionally. Praying for his birth mom to.

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

registered for 18 months today

Was informed by our agency this week that no referrals will be made during the months of July and August due to holidays in Bulgaria. Please pray with me that we get a referral in September. Have a great summer, we have plans to go to Gulf Shores and MAckinac Island this summer. Can't wait.

Thursday, July 1, 2010

Study done on adopted kids

Study: Kids Adopted From Abroad Adapt Well

By LINDSEY TANNER, AP Medical Writer Wed May 25,11:26 AM ET

CHICAGO - The scenario is increasingly common — eager parents adopt children born in hardship an ocean away, hoping to create a cohesive family against seemingly daunting odds.

And yet, children adopted from abroad seem to adjust remarkably well, according to a new study that challenges the widely held notion that these youngsters are badly damaged emotionally and prone to disruptive behavior.

The analysis of more than 50 years of international data found youngsters adopted from abroad are only slightly more likely than nonadopted children to have behavioral problems such as aggressiveness and anxiety. And they actually seem to have fewer problems than children adopted within their own countries.

"The first years of life should not be considered as inevitable destiny. On the contrary, most children grab the new chance offered to them," said researchers Femmie Juffer and Marinus H. van IJzendoorn of Leiden University in the Netherlands.

The results are generally reassuring for international adoption — a growing trend involving more than 40,000 children a year moving among more than 100 countries, the researchers said.

"Our findings may help them fight the stereotype that is often associated with international adoption," the researchers said.

The study appears in Wednesday's

Journal of the American Medical Association.

The authors pooled results from 137 studies on adoptions by parents living in the United States, Canada, Europe, Australia, New Zealand and Israel.

The analysis involved studies on adoption between 1950 and 2005, involving more than 30,000 adoptees and more than 100,000 nonadopted children.

During that time, adoption has evolved from being a "shameful secret" to being celebrated and often very visible, especially with the relatively recent phenomenon of white parents adopting Chinese children, according to a JAMA editorial by Dr. Laurie C. Miller of Tufts-New England Medical Center. In the United States alone, parents have adopted more than 230,000 children from other countries since 1989, she said.

Miller said sensationalized stories about severely disturbed children adopted from abroad have been widespread in the media, which may have skewed perceptions of these children.

In the study, behavior problems were relatively uncommon in all groups studied, but adopted children in general had more of them than nonadopted youngsters, regardless of where the adoption took place. That is not surprising, since both groups often suffer deprivation and come from broken families.

Internationally adopted children had a 20 percent higher chance of being disruptive than nonadopted children, and a 10 percent higher chance of being anxious or withdrawn. They also were twice as likely as nonadopted children to receive mental health services — results that the authors said were much better than expected given these children's often troubled early start in life.

The results might reflect the parents who adopt foreign children, said Dr. Gregory Plemmons of Vanderbilt University's clinic for international adoptees. These parents often are high-achieving and financially well-off, and tend to seek out services like counseling for their children, Plemmons said.

Children adopted within their own countries had an 36 percent higher chance of being anxious or withdrawn than the international adoptees did, and a 50 percent higher chance of being aggressive or disruptive, the study found.

These children were four times more likely than nonadopted children and twice as likely as internationally adopted children to receive mental health services. Also, domestically adopted youngsters had a 60 percent higher chance of having behavior problems than nonadopted children.

Plemmons theorized that children adopted domestically might suffer from the instability of living with different foster families before getting adopted.