Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Christmas and stuff
Thursday, December 17, 2009
Information from CAS (agency in North Carolina)
Bulgaria Updates
Bulgaria Updates
These country updates bring you the most current and up-to-date information from our program coordinators. One way of keeping you informed of what is going on in the country.
December 2009
In November court was successfully completed for our first family to adopt from Bulgaria, we anticipate that this family will travel to complete their adoption later this month. We look forward to what is anticipated to be a busy 2010 in Bulgaria as new staff has adjusted to their positions and new laws are in place. We are currently accepting applications from families hoping to adopt children 7 years and older and/or children with moderate to severe Special Needs. If you have any questions, please contact Allie Weldon.
November 2009
October was an exciting month in Sofia as the new Intercountry Adoption Council held its first (and subsequent) meetings! The foreign organization that we work with, Happy Child is currently going through the process of reaccreditation. Over the past twelve months, more and more families have decided to pursue a Bulgarian adoption, thus the wait to be matched with a younger child is increasing. We are currently accepting applications from families hoping to adopt children 7 years and older and/or children with moderate to severe Special Needs. If you have any questions, please contact Allie Weldon.
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
information about healthy referrels in Bulgaria...
The MOJ wants to "fill the requests" of families that have sent in dossiers, but the children are NOT there. There is a waiting list in Bulgaria of Bulgarian families that want to adopt healthy young children up to the age of 2. As soon as this was said, I immediately said, "Yes, but what about the Roma children. In the US, we are told that Bulgarian families do not adopt the Roma children." This is the reply that I got, "Shelley, what do you know about the Roma culture. Do you know why we call them Gypies?" (Ummm, no I don't) It was then explained to me about how their culture (Roma) thinks in regards to children. Basically, if a healthy baby is born to a Gypsy woman (family) and the child can not be taken care of by the birth mother, then the " gypsy family unit"(not my words) takes the child in and raises it. If the child has special needs, then the child is abandoned (place in an orphanage).
So, then I asked WHY...if there are not a lot of "young healthy" children being placed in orphanages that are avaliable for adoption, then why is this being offered as an adoption option to families....
She also said that families requesting young children have to remember how the process works up until the time that a child can be officially referred to a family. First, the director of the baby house has to register the child. Ideally, this would be done the day they enter the orphanage(or whatever day the parental rights are terminated..
child is avaliable for domestic adoption for 6 months. Then the child is avaliable for international adoption.
thing). Also, in regards to Roma children, I was told that many Bulgarians (and this would include directors at the baby houses) do not believe that any Roma child is completely healthy...because they think there is something in their genetics that cause them to have special needs or something "wrong". So, they are actually waiting to see what is "wrong" with the child.
All that I am saying is that families who are only interested in young healthy children really need to understand absolutely everything that is going on in Bulgaria in regards to children, orphanages and the adoption process....and everything that it will take before a young healthy child is avaliable for international adoption. Will there be some young healthy children avaliable for international adoption....
What our agency told me was that they hope and pray that there are referrals for young healthy children soon (like by March). But, families need to be very realistic with their expectations (especially since there are a large number of families requesting young, healthy children now). And again I will say, your Bulgarian agencies....
I did specifically ask how long a family that submits a dossier should expect to wait and I was told indefinantly. There is no way that any agency can give you an accurate number at this time because none of them have seen any young healthy children registered and referred for international adoption under the new structure of adoptions & there is nothing to indicate that young healthy children will continuously be avaliable (meaning that the referrals will come in month after month). Again, our agency did NOT say that no one would ever get a referral for a young child and they did say that they, like everyone else, are hopeing to see a few come in the new batch of referrals that will be turned in to the MOJ in January. But they are cautioning families that they should not "get their hopes up" that they will be offered a very young healthy child.
I know that many of you are very sensitive about this subject and all of you are hearing something different. That is why I always say that you need to ask the people handling your dossier for you. Regardless of what information you are getting from your US agency, your Bulgarian agency DOES know the answers to these questions. I was pleasantly surprised to hear about all the programs being implemented in Bulgaria to help families and to help children....
Again, just my opinion and what I was told directly by our Bulgarian agency this past week.
Another thing to keep in mind, and again, just my opinion: The directors of the orphanages and institutions are very aware that their government is trying to shut down these facilities. They see adoption as the biggest "threat" that this will happen. It was actually said directly to me by a director that they do not want all the children "taken away by adoption" because then they will all be out of jobs. Even a lot of the special needs children are not registered until they are moved to the institutions at age 3.....and then because they don't think anyone will adopt the child from there. So, you will also find that not all baby house directors are in a hurry to register kids because they worry about their baby house becoming empty...which means that they will lose their job. That is a very real worry...and it's reinforced by their government passing the new legislation to close all the facilities as quickly as possible (the government actually said
in 2010).
So, regardless of what anyone wants to think, this entire process is about a whole lot more than just the MOJ getting caught up on dossiers. The MOJ is meeting once and sometimes twice a week to push referrals through.
Just my opinion. Feel free to call me a liar (as many people on here already have). But, I was in Bulgaria for over a week and I talked to several different people....including regular Bulgarian citizens who have no investment/interest in adoption....
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
Families traveling to see thier children
Monday, December 14, 2009
Steven Curtis Chapman on Good Morning America
Friday, December 11, 2009
Approval Letter
Sunday, December 6, 2009
11 Months Waiting for Referral
Monday, November 23, 2009
Running
Thursday, November 12, 2009
MOJ Site
The expert inspections of the dossiers of children and their entry into the intercountry adoption register already are performed within 1-2 months of receiving them when there are no omissions in them. In 2008 during sessions of the Council 866 applications of adoptive foreigners were examined, while in 2007 they were 283, and 252 for 2006. The examined dossiers of children for 2008 are 1064, while in 2007 they were only 100. 472 children were offered to 423 prospective adopters. The dossiers of 704 children with special needs were examined – sick or older, and a decision was made to apply a special procedure for searching out prospective adopters for them.
NICU Orientation
Sunday, November 8, 2009
Waiting 10 months
Friday, November 6, 2009
Our Adoption Banquet
Saturday, October 31, 2009
Letter from Hague Adoption
So Monday I will be throwing more money to the government so we can go get our finger prints done again. So this is number 3 for hubby and number 4 for me in the last year and a half! Can you tell I am a bit frustrated.
Good news, our agency had to referrels the last MOJ appointment and someone is going to court for thier child. I was really hoping to have a referral by this Christmas, last Christmas was bitter sweet. Any news from other agencies on referrels?
Thursday, October 29, 2009
More Running Around
Friday, October 23, 2009
MOPS Sale
Thursday, October 22, 2009
I800A off today
Monday, October 19, 2009
1 Year and 7 months today
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Neonatal intensive care unit..
Friday, October 16, 2009
Homestudy Done
Thursday, October 8, 2009
MOPS sale
Monday, October 5, 2009
Waiting 9 months
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
Waiting
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
adoption update
Monday, September 21, 2009
Heard back from Adoption Unit in Detroit
Sunday, September 20, 2009
Saturday, September 19, 2009
US goverment made an error!
Special Needs
Monday, September 14, 2009
Song by Casting Crowns...Who am I
That the Lord of all the earth,
Would care to know my name,
Would care to feel my hurt.
Who am I?
That the bright and morning star,
Would choose to light the way,
For my ever wandering heart.
Bridge:
Not because of who I am,
But because of what you've done.
Not because of what I've done,
But because of who you are.
Chorus:
I am a flower quickly fading,
Here today and gone tomorrow,
A wave tossed in the ocean,
A vapor in the wind.
Still you hear me when I'm calling,
Lord, you catch me when I'm falling,
And you've told me who I am.
I am yours.
I am yours.
Who am I?
That the eyes that see my sin
Would look on me with love
And watch me rise again.
Who am I?
That the voice that calmed the sea,
Would call out through the rain,
And calm the storm in me.
Not because of who I am,
But because of what you've done.
Not because of what I've done,
But because of who you are.
I am a flower quickly fading,
Here today and gone tomorrow,
A wave tossed in the ocean,
A vapor in the wind.
Still you hear me when I'm calling,
Lord, you catch me when I'm falling,
And you've told me who I am.
I am yours.
Not because of who I am,
But because of what you've done.
Not because of what I've done,
But because of who you are.
I am a flower quickly fading,
Here today and gone tomorrow,
A wave tossed in the ocean,
A vapor in the wind.
Still you hear me when I'm calling,
Lord, you catch me when I'm falling,
And you've told me who I am.
I am yours.
I am yours.
I am yours.
Whom shall I fear
Whom shall I fear
I am yours..
I am yours..
Saturday, September 12, 2009
Waiting for Homestudy
Friday, September 11, 2009
Suggestions on a verse for our kitchen?
Thursday, September 10, 2009
Caroline 1st day of school
Saturday, September 5, 2009
Waiting 8 months
Thursday, September 3, 2009
medical
Sunday, August 30, 2009
Bulgarian program info from; An Open Door Adoption Agency
Bulgaria Adoption Process:The adoption process in Bulgaria offers a number of advantages over other Eastern European programs. First, it offers the opportunity to receive a referral prior to traveling to the country. Very young children may be adopted – from one year to older children and siblings. There is no upper age limit for adoptive parents, and travel to the country is two trips of seven and ten days respectively. The first trip is to meet the child and the second to complete the adoption.The process begins with an application and supporting documents (a “dossier”) which the Bulgarian government uses to approve potential adoptive parents. Once approved, the family enters the Register of Candidate Adoptive Parents, a waiting list for a child of the requested age. Current waiting times by age are estimated to be:
As a child becomes available for the prospective adoptive parent/s, the Ministry of Justice will offer a referral of a child, including: personal information about the child: name and ID, health, ethnic, religious and cultural background, special needs, adoptability, family background and information about the birth parents and other family members including and reasons for abandonment and a photo. Bulgaria indicates that all adoptable children have some special need, although it may be mild or correctable. Families may specify a list of special needs they are willing to consider. After a referral is selected, and the match is approved, an invitation to travel will be issued to the adoptive parent/s. A brief trip of seven days will then be made to meet the selected child, and after that another trip for 10 days is required to complete the adoption process. Our Bulgarian representative, an indigenous Bulgarian agency which is Hague Accredited by Bulgaria, will escort the adoptive parent/s throughout the adoption process. Communication with our representative is excellent and the Bulgarian process is very well defined as a politically stable and Hague country. Adoptions are expected to proceed smoothly. We will be happy to assist you in this search for your child. If you feel led to adopt internationally, you can be assured that the Lord will lead you to the right child for your family. Thank you for your interest and for contacting An Open Door Adoption Agency. Please feel free to contact us at 229-228-6339 with any questions you may have.
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Friday, August 28, 2009
If you are leaving soon to pick up your child read this article
Adopting overseas? Ask for discount on airfare
HELP IN THE AIR | Some airlines secretive about specialty airfares
It's been drilled into our heads that the best way to get a cheap airline ticket is to buy it well in advance of your travel date.
But parents adopting children from overseas often have no idea when that date might be. And once their adoption agency gives them the go-ahead to bring home their child, they typically have only a matter of days to make all the arrangements.
(Keith Hale/Sun-Times)
• If you're adopting an infant, ask your travel agent or the airline reservation clerk to seat you in the bulkhead section with a bassinet (provided on a first-come, first-serve basis at no additional cost). Bassinets will hold infants up to 20 pounds and 26 inches. Also, ask if they offer baby meals on the flight. Some airlines will provide jars of baby food.
• Don't forget about buying your child's one-way ticket. Infants under the age of 2 years will need a lap ticket (generally about 10 percent of an adult fare) to sit on parents' laps. Older children will need their own seats and will be charged the same fare as adults.
Rather than get stuck paying a premium for last-minute tickets, parents can benefit from adoption airfare discounts. For example, Northwest Airlines "Special Delivery" program has benefits that include 65 percent off the price of full-fare coach tickets, open returns and no penalties for cancellations or changes. (Parents must show proof of U.S. residency and provide legal documentation of the adoption.) Details at Nwa.com/features/adopt.
Some 17,438 overseas adoptions by U.S. parents took place this fiscal year, according to U.S. State Department statistics.
Not all airlines are eager to publicize news about these special adoption fares. The media relations spokespeople for other major airlines either ignored our queries about discounted air fares for adoptive families or point blank said they didn't offer any. However, when we called the reservation lines for Delta, United and Cathay Pacific and questioned the customer service reps, they all said they offer discounted fares.
"Airlines are very secretive about specialty air fares," says Ed Perkins, contributing editor for Smartertravel.com. "They don't advertise them and they're just not going to tell you about them unless you specifically ask. So ask."
Perkins cautioned that consumers need to know the ramifications of their discounted tickets if they can't leave or return on the dates they booked. For instance, will the airline charge a premium to change a ticket if your child is too sick to fly on the date you've planned or if bureaucratic red tape is holding up your departure?
"Given how complex some of the airline policies can be, the best bet in some of these situations is to pay a travel agent to handle this for you," Perkins said. "He or she will have access to consolidator deals and will know which airline is offering the best fare. This is one case where it makes sense to pay someone to deal with the hassles for you."
Portland, Ore.,'s Azumano Travel American Express has been in business for 60 years working with corporate and leisure clients. For the past 15 years, they've also become one of the go-to travel agencies for adoptive parents booking flights overseas. Azumano has adoption fare contracts with a number of airlines, including Cathay Pacific, United, Delta and Northwest.
"A lot of our parents do their research and already have a general idea of what these flights should cost with a few weeks notice," says Erle D'Penha, an Azumano travel consultant. "They could probably do it themselves, but what they're paying us for is our knowledge, relationships and ability to get them seats when the online sites say they're all booked. Sometimes people will look online and won't see options to leave from the cities they want to, but we'll be able to find other hubs. The travel Web sites won't always look for all of those flights. We can help find more options."
Indeed, we gave Azumano dates for a hypothetical trip to Seoul, South Korea. We came up with a $3,000 economy fare with two days advance notice. Azumano came up with a nonstop flight on the same carrier for less than half that price.
Not all carriers offer discounted fares, but there are other ways to get around paying full price. Check to see if you have enough airline miles to use toward a ticket. When Yorkville's Andy and Irina Prutch traveled to Russia last year to bring home their adopted daughter, they were surprised to find that a one-way ticket for their child would cost more than a round-trip ticket. But they weren't allowed to purchase a round-trip ticket for her.
"It would've cost us almost $3,000 for a one-way ticket for our daughter," says Andy Prutch. "We ended up using my miles on American Airlines for her seat. My company's travel agent didn't charge us any fees, so we only paid $52.70 for her total airfare. It was definitely the way to go for us."
Also, it never hurts to be nice to the reservation clerks.
While Shannon Mogilinski of St. Charles didn't get any discounts, she did get an upgrade.
"When my husband and I traveled to Russia to adopt our daughter in 2003, we mentioned to the reservations clerk at British Airways that we were adopting a child and that we were carrying humanitarian aid to several orphanages," Mogilinski said. "She gave us a complimentary upgrade to business class. If we hadn't said anything, we would've been sitting in coach."
Jae-Ha Kim is a locally based free-lance writer.
Discrimination against Roma
Madonna booed in Bucharest for defending Gypsies
Associated Press - August 27, 2009 1:13 PM PDT
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U.S. singer Madonna, center, performs during her concert in Bucharest, Romania, Wednesday, Aug. 26, 2009. The concert is part of Madonna's Sticky and Sweet Tour. (AP Photo/Vadim Ghirda)Associated Press
BUCHAREST, Romania - At first, fans politely applauded the Roma performers sharing a stage with Madonna. Then the pop star condemned widespread discrimination against Roma, or Gypsies — and the cheers gave way to jeers.
The sharp mood change that swept the crowd of 60,000, who had packed a park for Wednesday night's concert, underscores how prejudice against Gypsies remains deeply entrenched across Eastern Europe.
Despite long-standing efforts to stamp out rampant bias, human rights advocates say Roma probably suffer more humiliation and endure more discrimination than any other people group on the continent.
Sometimes, it can be deadly: In neighboring Hungary, six Roma have been killed and several wounded in a recent series of apparently racially motivated attacks targeting small countryside villages predominantly settled by Gypsies.
"There is generally widespread resentment against Gypsies in Eastern Europe. They have historically been the underdog," Radu Motoc, an official with the Soros Foundation Romania, said Thursday.
Roma, or Gypsies, are a nomadic ethnic group believed to have their roots in the Indian subcontinent. They live mostly in southern and eastern Europe, but hundreds of thousands have migrated west over the past few decades in search of jobs and better living conditions.
Romania has the largest number of Roma in the region. Some say the population could be as high as 2 million, although official data put it at 500,000.
Until the 19th century, Romanian Gypsies were slaves, and they've gotten a mixed response ever since: While discrimination is widespread, many East Europeans are enthusiastic about Gypsy music and dance, which they embrace as part of the region's cultural heritage.
That explains why the Roma musicians and a dancer who had briefly joined Madonna onstage got enthusiastic applause. And it also may explain why some in the crowd turned on Madonna when she paused during the two-hour show — a stop on her worldwide "Sticky and Sweet" tour — to touch on their plight.
"It has been brought to my attention ... that there is a lot of discrimination against Romanies and Gypsies in general in Eastern Europe," she said. "It made me feel very sad."
Thousands booed and jeered her.
A few cheered when she added: "We don't believe in discrimination ... we believe in freedom and equal rights for everyone." But she got more boos when she mentioned discrimination against homosexuals and others.
"I jeered her because it seemed false what she was telling us. What business does she have telling us these things?" said Ionut Dinu, 23.
Madonna did not react and carried on with her concert, held near the hulking palace of the late communist dictator Nicolae Ceausescu.
Her publicist, Liz Rosenberg, said Madonna and other had told her there were cheers as well as jeers.
"Madonna has been touring with a phenomenal troupe of Roma musicians who made her aware of the discrimination toward them in several countries so she felt compelled to make a brief statement," Rosenberg said in an e-mail. "She will not be issuing a further statement."
One Roma musician said the attitude toward Gypsies is contradictory.
"Romanians watch Gypsy soap operas, they like Gypsy music and go to Gypsy concerts," said Damian Draghici, a Grammy Award-winner who has performed with James Brown and Joe Cocker.
"But there has been a wave of aggression against Roma people in Italy, Hungary and Romania, which shows me something is not OK," he told the AP in an interview. "The politicians have to do something about it. People have to be educated not to be prejudiced. All people are equal, and that is the message politicians must give."
Nearly one in two of Europe's estimated 12 million Roma claimed to have suffered an act of discrimination over the past 12 months, according to a recent report by the Vienna-based EU Fundamental Rights Agency. The group says Roma face "overt discrimination" in housing, health care and education.
Many do not have official identification, which means they cannot get social benefits, are undereducated and struggle to find decent jobs.
Roma children are more likely to drop out of school than their peers from other ethnic groups. Many Romanians label Gypsies as thieves, and many are outraged by those who beg or commit petty crimes in Western Europe, believing they spoil Romania's image abroad.
In May 2007, Romanian President Traian Basescu was heard to call a Romanian journalist a "stinky Gypsy" during a conversation with his wife. Romania's anti-discrimination board criticized Basescu, who later apologized.
Human rights activists say the attacks in Hungary, which began in July 2008, may be tied to that country's economic crisis and the rising popularity of far-right vigilantes angered by a rash of petty thefts and other so-called "Gypsy crime." Last week, police arrested four suspects in a nightclub in the eastern city of Debrecen.
Bulgaria, the Czech Republic and Slovakia also have been criticized for widespread bias against Roma.
Madonna's outrage touched a nerve in Romania, but it seems doubtful it will change anything, said the Soros Foundation's Motoc.
"Madonna is a pop star. She is not an expert on interethnic relations," he said.
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AP Writers Alison Mutler in Bucharest, William J. Kole in Vienna and Nekesa Mumbi Moody in New York contributed to this report.