Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Christmas and stuff

I haven't blogged in a few days because there isn't anything to say really! I was angry and disappointed when i read the below post. Our agency sent us an email saying in essence that healthy young children have been referred but not to the USA because we didn't have any dossiers in 2006/7 that they MOJ just got done with. USA has dossiers from 2008 and on which the MOJ just started looking at. Our agency also informed us that 2 families from the beginning of 2008 received referrels for healthy young children but had to update their paperwork so haven't traveled yet.
I am still waiting for an email from our agency about how many healthy children are on the registry at this time. I will email our caseworker next week after the holiday season to see if she has any news. Bulgaria, like most European countries take a long Christmas holiday.
So we wait on news and on a referral.
Concerning Christmas we had a wonderful time with Chris' family in Boyne Michigan skiing and going to the waterpark. My girls did so well for their first time skiing and really enjoyed it so we will have to try and keep that up. We then left for Alabama to spend Christmas with my family. We had a wonderful time bowling, iceskating and eating lots of goodies. We also took the girls to see the movie ' The Princess and the Frog" and were very disappointed. There was a ton of voodoo, demons and just wasn't very appropriate for little kids especially if you are a Christian. We are home now, surrounded by snow and enjoying all the presents we received. My favorite gift is our electric blanket from my parents. LOVE IT! This Christmas wasn't as bad as last Christmas surprisingly. Last Christmas I was down in the dumps thinking about Calvin and wishing he was home. This Christmas, sadly, I tried not to think to much about him not being here. I pray for him every day but try and not dwell on the fact that he isn't here. And honestly, I am trying to prepare myself that maybe this isn't the Lord's will for us. I am leaving this up to the Lord, praying for his will. I am tired of all the yo-yoing I experience within my heart. I am trying to be at peace with what ever happens. But we have decided that if our paperwork expires in November and we don't have a referral it wasn't meant to be. We can't afford to renew homestudies, uscis paperwork, fingerprints, background checks etc. It gets to be very expensive. We have already changed countries once from Ukraine to Bulgaria, changed our homestudy twice now and I am tired.
Praying we will travel this summer to meet our son! 2010 we will also be celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary, wouldn't it be awesome to celebrate it in Bulgaria? Wishing you all a wonderful holiday season with loved ones and a new year with many blessings.

Thursday, December 17, 2009

Information from CAS (agency in North Carolina)

Bulgaria Updates

child from bulgaria

Bulgaria Updates
These country updates bring you the most current and up-to-date information from our program coordinators. One way of keeping you informed of what is going on in the country.

December 2009

In November court was successfully completed for our first family to adopt from Bulgaria, we anticipate that this family will travel to complete their adoption later this month. We look forward to what is anticipated to be a busy 2010 in Bulgaria as new staff has adjusted to their positions and new laws are in place. We are currently accepting applications from families hoping to adopt children 7 years and older and/or children with moderate to severe Special Needs. If you have any questions, please contact Allie Weldon.

November 2009

October was an exciting month in Sofia as the new Intercountry Adoption Council held its first (and subsequent) meetings! The foreign organization that we work with, Happy Child is currently going through the process of reaccreditation. Over the past twelve months, more and more families have decided to pursue a Bulgarian adoption, thus the wait to be matched with a younger child is increasing. We are currently accepting applications from families hoping to adopt children 7 years and older and/or children with moderate to severe Special Needs. If you have any questions, please contact Allie Weldon.

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

information about healthy referrels in Bulgaria...

This is written by an adoptive parent that was in Bulgaria this past week to visit her down syndrome son;

As for what my agency told me, they said that the MOJ told agencies last week that they do not, at this time, have any new referrals for young children. They have requested that directors (at the baby houses) send them any new children avaliable for adoption in January. It will then take them 2-3 months to do everything required to start giving this information to the agencies. As far as "young healthy" children, here is what I was told:
The MOJ wants to "fill the requests" of families that have sent in dossiers, but the children are NOT there. There is a waiting list in Bulgaria of Bulgarian families that want to adopt healthy young children up to the age of 2. As soon as this was said, I immediately said, "Yes, but what about the Roma children. In the US, we are told that Bulgarian families do not adopt the Roma children." This is the reply that I got, "Shelley, what do you know about the Roma culture. Do you know why we call them Gypies?" (Ummm, no I don't) It was then explained to me about how their culture (Roma) thinks in regards to children. Basically, if a healthy baby is born to a Gypsy woman (family) and the child can not be taken care of by the birth mother, then the " gypsy family unit"(not my words) takes the child in and raises it. If the child has special needs, then the child is abandoned (place in an orphanage).
So, then I asked WHY...if there are not a lot of "young healthy" children being placed in orphanages that are avaliable for adoption, then why is this being offered as an adoption option to families....and what is the REAL outlook (from the Bulgarian persepective) of young healthy children being adopted internationally. She said that she could only tell me what the MOJ is saying and what the adoption "trend" is here in Bulgaria. There is a waiting list of Bulgarian families that want to adopt healthy children under 2. The Roma culture embraces and encourages "their own" to raise other people's children if the birth family is unable to care for the child. Thje directors are repeatedly being asked to provide information on young healthy kids and are saying that they do not have any children that fit this request (for international adoption).

She also said that families requesting young children have to remember how the process works up until the time that a child can be officially referred to a family. First, the director of the baby house has to register the child. Ideally, this would be done the day they enter the orphanage(or whatever day the parental rights are terminated...and if they're not terminated, then 6 months must go by before the director can make them eligible for adoption). But in actuality, that is not the case. Directors are not registering children on the day they enter the orphanage. The MOJ is encouraging directors to do this step quickly, but there is actually no system in place to ensure that it's done. There is also no system in place to ensure that the referrals are accurate and because directors know that special needs children get priority, they are more inclined to list a child as having some type of special need. Once the director does the paper work, the
child is avaliable for domestic adoption for 6 months. Then the child is avaliable for international adoption.
So, in order for very young children to be avaliable for international adoption, the directors are going to have to start doing their jobs faster AND the children are going to have to be listed as healthy & for some reason rejected by their family unit(Roma) and all the people in Bulgaria(Bulgarian children) that are willing to take them. Also, since Bulgaria just passed the new legislation to close as many orphanages as possible in 2010, they are pushing a lot of new programs to keep young healthy children out of orphanages and in Bulgaria(ie: so as not to have a need for them to be adopted internationally). I did not just hear this from my angecy either, I heard this from members of a parent group that I met with as well (members of that group has met with the MOJ recently about children being placed in orphanages and was told the same
thing). Also, in regards to Roma children, I was told that many Bulgarians (and this would include directors at the baby houses) do not believe that any Roma child is completely healthy...because they think there is something in their genetics that cause them to have special needs or something "wrong". So, they are actually waiting to see what is "wrong" with the child.

All that I am saying is that families who are only interested in young healthy children really need to understand absolutely everything that is going on in Bulgaria in regards to children, orphanages and the adoption process....and everything that it will take before a young healthy child is avaliable for international adoption.
Will there be some young healthy children avaliable for international adoption....there should be, hopefully soon (that's how it was said to me). But, the way things stand in Bulgaria right now, there is not going to be a large abundance of young healthy children suddenly released and avaliable for international adoption....especially not in the large numbers that they currently have dossier requests for. They also do not expect there to be a constant avaliablility of young healthy children (meaning that once one family gets a referral for a young healthy child, the referrals will continue to come month after month).

What our agency told me was that they hope and pray that there are referrals for young healthy children soon (like by March). But, families need to be very realistic with their expectations (especially since there are a large number of families requesting young, healthy children now). And again I will say, your Bulgarian agencies....all of them.....are very aware of all of this. Thye MOJ is being very clear on this subject. The agencies are required to tell you all of this, to answer all of your questions, to keep you informed, to give you the information directly as they receive it from the MOJ. That is part of their job description.....part of what they agree to do when they are licensed as agencies.
I did specifically ask how long a family that submits a dossier should expect to wait and I was told indefinantly. There is no way that any agency can give you an accurate number at this time because none of them have seen any young healthy children registered and referred for international adoption under the new structure of adoptions & there is nothing to indicate that young healthy children will continuously be avaliable (meaning that the referrals will come in month after month). Again, our agency did NOT say that no one would ever get a referral for a young child and they did say that they, like everyone else, are hopeing to see a few come in the new batch of referrals that will be turned in to the MOJ in January. But they are cautioning families that they should not "get their hopes up" that they will be offered a very young healthy child.

I know that many of you are very sensitive about this subject and all of you are hearing something different. That is why I always say that you need to ask the people handling your dossier for you. Regardless of what information you are getting from your US agency, your Bulgarian agency DOES know the answers to these questions. I was pleasantly surprised to hear about all the programs being implemented in Bulgaria to help families and to help children....all of which are geared to keep the children out of orphanages. But, I've been around international adoption long enough to know that what that means for families waiting on young healthy children is that anything and everything is going to be done to ensure that those kids never end up on an international adoption registry. So, families need to be realistic about their expectations.

Again, just my opinion and what I was told directly by our Bulgarian agency this past week.

Another thing to keep in mind, and again, just my opinion: The directors of the orphanages and institutions are very aware that their government is trying to shut down these facilities. They see adoption as the biggest "threat" that this will happen. It was actually said directly to me by a director that they do not want all the children "taken away by adoption" because then they will all be out of jobs. Even a lot of the special needs children are not registered until they are moved to the institutions at age 3.....and then because they don't think anyone will adopt the child from there. So, you will also find that not all baby house directors are in a hurry to register kids because they worry about their baby house becoming empty...which means that they will lose their job. That is a very real worry...and it's reinforced by their government passing the new legislation to close all the facilities as quickly as possible (the government actually said
in 2010).
So, regardless of what anyone wants to think, this entire process is about a whole lot more than just the MOJ getting caught up on dossiers. The MOJ is meeting once and sometimes twice a week to push referrals through.

Just my opinion. Feel free to call me a liar (as many people on here already have). But, I was in Bulgaria for over a week and I talked to several different people....including regular Bulgarian citizens who have no investment/interest in adoption....and they all say the same thing.

So we will continue to wait until our paperwork expires, if we don't receive a referral by then we are done. No more money growing on our trees. Who knows what to think, for me I just want honesty. No false hope please, just honesty. Interested to see what our agency has to say come next week.

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Families traveling to see thier children

I am just so happy and excited that there are a number of families in Bulgaria visiting or picking up their children. What an awesome Christmas present. I love following their journey's and hearing about their experiences. I can't wait until we are in Bulgaria. The food sounds great, the lodging is clean and up to date, and it looks like a beautiful country with hospitable people.

Our agency will be finding out on Monday how many healthy children are on the registry, and there will probably be more in April. They have to be put on the registry for 6months before they can be adopted internationally. Praying there are many on the registry so some can come home already. Praying and thinking of you daily my little boy!

Friday, December 11, 2009

Approval Letter

I have been checking our mail box daily waiting for our approval letter, and Renae you were right. It took them 5 weeks to approve us. Yippy! Soooo happy to hear that they didn't need anything else. First time for everything!

We are having blizzards here, so will have to wait until Monday to get the letter appostilled and then mail to our agency to mail to Bulgaria. All I can say is 'Praise the Lord'. Thank you God for answering this prayer. Keep warm, remember the reason for this season and enjoy your time with friends and family.

Sunday, December 6, 2009

11 Months Waiting for Referral

I have been quiet because there hasn't been anything to report on the adoption front. We are still waiting to hear back from homeland security on the Hague front as to whether they approve us to adopt. We have been approved once already so don't know what is taking so long. It has been about five weeks now so will email later this week to find out what is happening.

So we have been waiting now for 11 months for a referral, we were originally told 12 months to 18 months to get a referral. We still haven't seen any healthy children being referred,hopefully in January we will. Praying we will have our referral by summer time and travel to meet our son. If we do travel around summer time then maybe Calvin will be home for Christmas 2010 or right after. Please continue to pray for our son. Thank you.

We are keeping busy with the Christmas season and will be travelling to Alabama to be with my family for Christmas. Hope there is no snow when we are there. We had a ton of snow this past week, that schools were cancelled. So the kids got to go sledding, drink hotchocolate and make snow angels. I supervised from indoors, hubby played with them. In Bulgaria it isn't as cold as here but in the 40-50's.

Monday, November 23, 2009

Running

Yes it is true, I am actually training to run a 5K in May 2010. Never thought I would ever do this, made every excuse as to why I shouldn't take up running; asthma, not fun, boring, silly, bad for your knees, hate to sweat etc.

But at the prodding of a friend (who is a runner) I decided to do the couch to 5k training and it is okay! I hate it while I am doing it, but love it afterwards. I am on week 4 of a 9 week program. This is one way to not obsess on the adoption front. However, I do check blogs every day to see what is happening with other adoptive families. It makes my heart so happy to see little ones coming home! One day it will be us!

I emailed the Hague department about our I 800a as we hadn't heard from them about our fingerprints. I got a response saying we didn't have to redo our fingerprints if we want to go with our August one! The left hand doesn't seem to know what the right hand is doing! I responded and asked them to refund us our money then and we could do that! They also said they have 90 days to work on our paperwork (if they take 90 days that means by Feb1st) Praying we will hear back from them before Christmas. Once we get this approval letter we then need to notarize and apostil it and send to Bulgaria.

Thanksgiving is just a few days away, and we will be spending it with Chris' family. The girls are excited to see their cousins and grandparents. I have a wonderful recipe for pumpkin pie, so will be making a couple of those for Thanksgiving. Wishing you all a happy thanksgiving as we give thanks to the One who has blessed us with much. Thank you Lord for your mercy, and the many blessings we do not deserve. Thank you for the children I have and for the one that is not with us yet, bless them and keep them for physical and spiritual harm Lord. Thank you for my husband who provides and protects us. Thank you Lord for family and friends who encourage us and love us even when we aren't lovable. Thank you Lord for adopting us into your family and for your plan of redemption. Jeremiah 29:11-13

Thursday, November 12, 2009

MOJ Site

Okay, so I finally figured out how to go to the Ministry of Justice site and translate it on the google translate site. However, if I am reading it correctly it hasn't been updated since July? Am I correct. I was also reading the Vesta site and it does mention how many dossiers there are for 2008 which is what they are on now.

The expert inspections of the dossiers of children and their entry into the intercountry adoption register already are performed within 1-2 months of receiving them when there are no omissions in them. In 2008 during sessions of the Council 866 applications of adoptive foreigners were examined, while in 2007 they were 283, and 252 for 2006. The examined dossiers of children for 2008 are 1064, while in 2007 they were only 100. 472 children were offered to 423 prospective adopters. The dossiers of 704 children with special needs were examined – sick or older, and a decision was made to apply a special procedure for searching out prospective adopters for them.

NICU Orientation

So happy, finally had my orientation at the hospital so will begin volunteering next Wednesday night. I can't wait to hold those little babies, touch them, and pray over them.

Calvin, I am praying that you are being held, cared for and your needs are being met. Mommy is praying for you and trying to get you home as soon as possible. God's timing is perfect! Cathryn calls you 'baby Calvin' whenever she talks about you. We can't wait to hold you and play with you my sweet child.

And to all of you who have just received referrals, I am rejoicing with you. Can't wait to follow your journey to Bulgaria and see your precious children home where they belong. God is so good all the time.

Sunday, November 8, 2009

Waiting 10 months

We have been officially waiting 10 months since our dossier was registered with the MOJ.
I am waiting, waiting on you Lord.

Friday, November 6, 2009

Our Adoption Banquet

Last night we attended an adoption banquet at our church. The purpose was to celebrate adoption and to raise support for families who want to adopt but can't because of finances. Isn't this the first thing you thought when adoption came up, how can we afford it?

What was really special is that they had a photographer who attends our church, take family pictures and it was FREE. What a blessing. They also had a silent auction. There were knitted scarves ( I should have made an offer but didn't), cutting boards, a beautiful quilt (I couldn't afford the starting bid of $300), a painting, calligraphy (also wanted to make an offer on that) , a guitar and coffee machine.

The meal was catered and delicious. Chicken, carrots, broccoli, rice and cheese rolls. There was background music playing and each table was decorated with a flag of a country and momento from that country. I am guessing the countries were where the children in our church have been adopted from. There were two speakers, a college student and then a grandmother. Both were adopted domestically and the grandmother has grandchildren from China, Korea and Guatemala. The testemonies were my favorite part of the evening. They both knew they were adopted from the beginning and the college student talked about some issues she has had and how her adoptive parents showed her how we are all adopted into the family of God. There is so much I could say, there was scripture, tears, and the focus was our our Father who loves us and wants the best for us. At the end of the evening they asked for donations for the fund they are starting for families who want to adopt. I would love to know how they did! It was a wonderful time to celebrate adoption and be reminded why we are doing it. We know God wants us to do this and that he has our son waiting for us. We wish you were home Calvin, we love you and pray for you daily. We pray that God will bring you home soon and that you are safe, healthy and cared for. We pray for your birthmom that she will come to know her Heavenly Father through this experience, that she will have peace and feel His presence in her life. I hope you will be able to meet her one day and know how much she loves you to give you life and not abort you or harm you. Come home to us soon, love mom.

Saturday, October 31, 2009

Letter from Hague Adoption

Yes we heard back from the Hague today and no it wasn't our approval letter. Rather, they want us to do our fingerprints again so were asking for the $160 we didn't send with our application. I just don't get the government. We had our fingerprints done in August people, why can't you use those? I sent them a copy of the letter saying we had them done in August and they were good for 15 months. But I guess every time you do different paperwork you need new fingerprints. All I can say is 'money, money, money. Money makes the world go round.' How about we rather give the money to the orphanages these kids are in, doesn't that sound like a better idea?

So Monday I will be throwing more money to the government so we can go get our finger prints done again. So this is number 3 for hubby and number 4 for me in the last year and a half! Can you tell I am a bit frustrated.

Good news, our agency had to referrels the last MOJ appointment and someone is going to court for thier child. I was really hoping to have a referral by this Christmas, last Christmas was bitter sweet. Any news from other agencies on referrels?

Thursday, October 29, 2009

More Running Around

The running around is not adoption related, rather it is for volunteering at the hospital. I received my paperwork last Friday to fill out and a test. I completed it over the weekend. This week I had to get a tb test, blood drawn to see if I am immune to chickenpox and I had to get a flu shot. Easy right? Oh no. I had to wait 45 min to get the above done and then told that they were out of flu shots. So I called the hospital and had to go there today to get my flu shot. Tomorrow I have to go back to get my tb read. I still need to go to the NICU department for my tour and orientation before I can begin so hopefully can do that sometime next week. I will call tomorrow to set that up.

My kids still haven't received their flu shots because their doctor's office is out of them! I am seriously thinking about going down to the Health Dept to get them. Everyone around us is sick. Many schools closed last week and I am not putting my kids in the church programs until they have their shots. I am scared for Cathryn because she gets asthma when she has a cold and I have heard that with h1n1 people get respitory issues and then have to go to the hospital. NO thanks!

Halloween is around the corner, I will have to post pics of the girls, which reminds me I still need to make Caroline's costume. She wants to be a tootsie roll. Cathryn is going to be an angel. I love Halloween don't you? Especially the chocolate candy bars the kids bring home. My favorite holiday though is Christmas and Easter. The birth and resurrection of Christ! Have a safe weekend.

Friday, October 23, 2009

MOPS Sale

I sold a ton of big items and after giving my 30% to MOPS my take home is $192 to put towards our adoption. Yeah! I had quite a lot of maternity stuff left over because there was so much of it so I took it to a consignment store down the road. However, they take 60% of what I sell it for. I just want to sell it and get more than I would at a garage sale. So we will see.
So the $192 looks likes peanuts compared to what we just dished out ($1,000) but it is something right? We also have finally paid off our car so no more car payments. So that money will be going in the adoption savings account starting January.
Our church is also hosting an Adoption Banquet November 5th to raise money for their new adoption ministry. Some of the money will go into a financial fund for families who want to adopt but can't afford it. Great idea and blessing to many in the future! I am really looking forward to the evening, hearing testimonies and they will be having a silent auction. I will let you know how it goes. Have a great weekend, it is raining here and we will be siting in the cold watching our girls play soccer. So happy it is their last game.

Thursday, October 22, 2009

I800A off today

I am so relieved to be mailing off our I 800A with our new/updated homestudy. I am off to get our homestudy apostatized for Bulgaria and mail all documents off. What a relief. Next is to hear back from USCIS, with an approval letter. Pray we don't have to redo our fingerprints, we just did them for the I600A in August, and that we will hear good news within a month.

Heard from our coordinator that Bulgaria MOJ is looking at Dec 2007/Jan 2008 dossiers. Wondering how many dossiers were sent to Bulgaria in 2008 anyone know? Hope to have a referral by this summer.
I am hoping to start volunteering at the NICU the beginning of November, need to get some paperwork filled out, blood work done and training. Can't wait as my arms are aching to hold babies.

Monday, October 19, 2009

1 Year and 7 months today

It has been 1 year and 7 months since we started the adoption process, and we are still waiting. Shame on us though, it took us almost a year to get all our paperwork ready because of me being a British Citizen (lots of red tape to get through). Praying this time next year we would have made our first trip to see our son. I think getting the referral and leaving our son after the 1st trip to Bulgaria will be the hardest for us. The referral will be difficult because we will have to decided if it is our son or not depending on health information (not looks). Then being with him for a week in Bulgaria and leaving him behind will be hard for sure.
Off to the NICU in an hour, so excited. Will let you know how it goes!

Sunday, October 18, 2009

Neonatal intensive care unit..

I am very excited. I am going to the NICU at the local hospital in our area and get to see the babies and what goes on there. I am hoping to volunteer and hold babies, or talk to the babies in the hospital. I was talking with a friend that I pray someone is holding our son and loving him until we get him. She then mentioned that there are some babies in the hospital that need this too, because the parents live to far to do this daily or they are in foster care (she is a nurse). So that is what I am going to do. I am going to hold babies, pray over them and love on them. The other new happening is I am going to start training to run a 5K in May. Never thought I would ever say that.
Adoption news; we received a bill from AAI for our updated homestudy. It will be $503. So that will be mailed tomorrow, and hopefully we will have our homestudy by Friday. Then we will mail it off with our I800a form with $670. Got a love that money flying out the door! Please continue to pray that we will recieve our approval from the American government in a timely fashion and that we will receive our referral in the near future. If we receive our referral in January, Calvin should be home by May. If we receive a refferal in July we should have Calvin home by Christmas. What a Christmas present. Will let you know when we recieve our approval.

Friday, October 16, 2009

Homestudy Done

Heard from our social worker that our background checks came in this week from AL and SC and she turned in our homestudy to our agency yesterday. So we should have it in our hands this time next week. This means we then get to pay them for the homestudy and pay USCIS $670 for the I800A form. I am so relieved that we will have this all mailed in to USCIS by the end of this month. We have already updated our fingerprints so hopefully we will get an acceptance letter by December. Wishful thinking maybe, but all things are possible when God is in control.
The MOPS sale started today, I of course went and bought some things (only spent $18) for the girls for Christmas. There were tons of people but also tons of stuff. Hope we make some good money to pay for the adoption. Have a good weekend!

Thursday, October 8, 2009

MOPS sale

Today I had some friends over for breakfast, then went to gymnastics with Cathryn, did some church nursery organizing and then went over to a friends to label clothes for the Mothers of Preschoolers consignment sale. I was told they were out of seller numbers (had reached their quota) but my friend only used a third of her amount (allowed 300 pieces of clothing). So I went to her house and labeled my stuff to sell with her stuff next week Friday and Saturday. I didn't realize how much I had in maternity clothing! I have probably 200 pieces of clothing- infant, toddler and maternity, wouldn't it be awesome if it all sold! I guess on Saturday it is half off day. The money I make will go straight into our adoption fund. Every bit helps. I am also selling big items : bassinett, swing, stroller, vibrating seat, play saucer but I am keeping our pack and play for Calvin and our crib.

Adoption news: our social worker still hasn't received our background clearance checks yet. Still waiting. If we don't hear anything by the end of next week, I will be calling S.Carolina and Alabama. Still waiting and praying for you Calvin. Can't wait to hear your little footprints running down the hall, can't wait to snuggle with you when you wake up in the morning, can't wait to read you a bed time story, can't wait to play with you and just touch you. I miss you even though we haven't even met yet!

Monday, October 5, 2009

Waiting 9 months

We were registered Jan 6, 2009 so tomorrow it will be 9 months of waiting. I am hoping we are half way there if not closer. I am guessing the MOJ is starting to meet again this month to give some referrals again, summer is over folks!

A friend of mine mentioned that her church was having a MOPS sale if I wanted to sell some children's clothing. YES! We need to make some money for our adoptions. So yesterday I emailed and called the person I am supposed to get my paperwork from, didn't reach them so left a message. I then went through Cathryn's stuff, found some maternity clothes and sorted. Only to find out this morning they have enough vendors so I will have to sign up for the February one. Oh well!

This morning I decided to sort through all the stuff in our basement storage/laundry area because I have a cold and was not going to the gym today. I found more baby stuff and maternity clothing. Yeah. So put all in bags, labeled them for February's sale. I love having an organized home. Next will be the garage, we do the garage every spring and fall, how can it get so disorganized in such a short time! Oh yeah, we don't put things back where we got them from!

So as we wait for our paperwork stuff go get back and our updated homestudy, I am organizing and fixing up our home. Our kitchen looks sooo much better, amazing what a little bit of paint can do, new lights and next month I will buy some curtains. LOVE IT! Next on my list of to do is Calvin's Room and our master bedroom. Calvin needs blue curtains and a blue area rug. Our room needs some color paint. Have I told you how much I hate painting!

So excited to see some children coming home (special needs). Looking forward to hearing about some young healthy kids being referred. I thought boys were supposed to be quicker! Have a blessed week friends.

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Waiting

Mailed off the background check for Alabama today, put together everything that needs to go with the I800a, filled out the I800a. So now just waiting to get the background checks back from S.Carolina and Alabama then our home study. Really hope we will have everything sent off by the end of October and then be approved by USCIS by the end of November. At that point we would have been waiting 11 months...Praying that the Lords will be done and that we are patient and everything works out to His Glory!
Praying for you son that you are healthy, that you feel the Lords presence in your life. I pray for spiritual and physical protection on your life.

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

adoption update

For the Hague homestudy I have to have a background check done for each state I have lived since 18 years of age. So that means South Carolina (freshman year of college) and Alabama (where I lived for a few months with my family before going to college). I found the answers to my I800a questions, thank you to those of you who helped me during my breakdown and talked me off the ledge :)

So I am hoping and praying we will have our home study completed, background checks done and turn in the I800a with $670 by the end of October. Realistic don't you think? Ya never know with international adoption. Keep praying! Kay is still working on Bulgaria, but I am not holding my breath so am getting everything together for the I800a. I think I have a copy of our marriage certificate somewhere, thought I was done with all that!

Monday, September 21, 2009

Heard back from Adoption Unit in Detroit

Wow, that was quick! I emailed the office that originally said we were grandfathered in and then sent us a letter saying they made an error and we weren't grandfathered in after all, and Bulgaria wants us to fill out the I800a. They pretty much said they made an error as the deadline was April 1 and our application was entered in the system April 21, so we have to do the I800a and pay the fee for processing. I asked our caseworker if she could fight this one for us in Bulgaria and she said she would do what she can. We have to let USCIS know by Oct 14 what we plan to do.

I have the I800a filled out and ready to mail when we get our home study, maybe I should be looking for a job in the evenings to pay for the extra expenses you don't plan on in adoption!! I am going to look at this like being pregnant with complications!

Sunday, September 20, 2009

Rejoice always,pray without ceasing; in everthing give thanks; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

This is the verse that spoke to me today! I am rejoicing, I am praying without ceasing and giving thanks for this 'situation' for this is the will of God for me.

This will be the verse that I will paint in my kitchen, and each time I see it I will think about my son Calvin and how in situations like this we need to keep rejoicing, praying and give thanks.
Thank you to all who have left words of encouragement on my facebook and blog.

I love this song, while I am waiting. While I wait for things to sort themselves out and wait for our son to come home I will continue to worship God, be faithful, and serve.

Saturday, September 19, 2009

US goverment made an error!

We got a letter today saying, "upon review of your form I600a, it has been determined that your request to transfer your approved I600a from Ukraine to Bulgaria was granted in error August 2008. We have been notified by Sofia Bulgaria that you must file an I800a to intiate adoption in Bulgaria."

What can I say, nothing! I have filled out the I800a to the best of my ability, emailed USCIS and asked them to waive our filing fee (it will cost us another $670) because they told us we were grandfathered in. There is a question ont he I800a I am not sure how to fill out...asks about State statutes and requirments, i dont know what they are. Do any of you who are adopting? I have done all I can tonight, I am going to pray now and not worry about it until Monday.

I just want to quit...I am tired of waiting, tired of renewing paperwork, tired of this run around and tired of having to chase people to get anything done! Please pray for us that we dont have to pay the extra $670 and having to pay for a new homestudy to be done which will be $1400. I am praying it will only be an updated homestudy and the filing fee will be waived. Some days I wonder is this what the Lord wants us to be doing or is it just me wanting a little boy named Calvin? I need to pray.

Special Needs

The last few days our agency has been emailing us special needs children information. Bulgaria doesn't allow healthy children to have pics and medicals available before you are matched but they do allow agencies to show special needs children with photos and medicals ahead of time to find them families quicker. Usually the children are older than 3 so I recently have just been deleting them without looking because it breaks my heart. One little boy, about a month ago caught my attention. He looked like he was maybe 2, so I asked our agency for a video and more medical on him. Ends up he is actually 5. So i don't even want to look at the photo's anymore. From all the reading we have done for our adoption education requirements we have decided that we would like a child under 3, younger the better.
Anyway, there was a little boy recently emailed to us who is presently 2.5 yrs old, but he has a cleft palette (and cleft lip) and eye issues. He also doesn't speak yet. When I saw his photo I wanted to call our agency but once I did research on all the surgery he will need, and the fact he will be 3 when he gets here, I just didn't feel we should proceed. Chris said he feels horrible to have to look at these children and turn them down. We want a healthy boy under 3 so we will stay the course and wait to get our referral for our son. I pray for this other little boy, he is so darling, that someone else will want to adopt him. If you are interested, contact Tree of Life Adoption Center in Portland Oregon and talk with them about him.
Did you know that cleft palet and lips can either be genetic or the mom was abusing drugs when she was pregnant? Good thing to know! I think a child already in an orphange will have 'special needs' when they come home, as a result of being in an orphange. Most of these children will have ADHD because of malnutrition, sensory issues, trust issues etc.
'Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted. Blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the earth."
Matthew 5:3-5

Monday, September 14, 2009

Song by Casting Crowns...Who am I

Who am I?
That the Lord of all the earth,
Would care to know my name,
Would care to feel my hurt.

Who am I?
That the bright and morning star,
Would choose to light the way,
For my ever wandering heart.

Bridge:
Not because of who I am,
But because of what you've done.
Not because of what I've done,
But because of who you are.

Chorus:
I am a flower quickly fading,
Here today and gone tomorrow,
A wave tossed in the ocean,
A vapor in the wind.
Still you hear me when I'm calling,
Lord, you catch me when I'm falling,
And you've told me who I am.
I am yours.
I am yours.

Who am I?
That the eyes that see my sin
Would look on me with love
And watch me rise again.

Who am I?
That the voice that calmed the sea,
Would call out through the rain,
And calm the storm in me.

Not because of who I am,
But because of what you've done.
Not because of what I've done,
But because of who you are.


I am a flower quickly fading,
Here today and gone tomorrow,
A wave tossed in the ocean,
A vapor in the wind.
Still you hear me when I'm calling,
Lord, you catch me when I'm falling,
And you've told me who I am.
I am yours.

Not because of who I am,
But because of what you've done.
Not because of what I've done,
But because of who you are.


I am a flower quickly fading,
Here today and gone tomorrow,
A wave tossed in the ocean,
A vapor in the wind.
Still you hear me when I'm calling,
Lord, you catch me when I'm falling,
And you've told me who I am.
I am yours.
I am yours.
I am yours.

Whom shall I fear
Whom shall I fear
I am yours..
I am yours..

Saturday, September 12, 2009

Waiting for Homestudy

We mailed in Chris' health form to our homestudy agency last Friday, so hopefully will have our updated homestudy soon. We will have to mail this with a request for an extension on our I171h to USCIS and then we continue to wait.

Friday, September 11, 2009

Suggestions on a verse for our kitchen?

Place your vote here on what verse you think we should put in our kitchen! Hubby and i can't agree on one. He thinks it should have the words food/eat in it, I on the other hand want something to do with hospitality/family/love for God. So place your votes and maybe it will find its place on my kitchen wall.

Thursday, September 10, 2009

Caroline 1st day of school

Caroline lost her 1st tooth
1st day of school at North Hills Classical Academy!

Cant seem to rotate these pictures! Caroline is loving her new school, she has 2 other girls in her class and 3 boys. She hasn't had any homework yet which is amazing. She talks about having 2 recesses and snack time when we ask her about her day! She is learning Latin chants and doing the usual 1st grade stuff. I am so glad she is enjoying it, as she says she doesn't have any friends yet! Her first day I introduced her to another girl in her class hoping they would feel comfortable to talk to one another later.
Cathryn has been doing homeschooling with me. So far so good. She is reading Caroline's books from Kindergarten which is great! We studied china and ducks yesterday. We are reading the book The Story about Ping. He is a duck in China. We also looked at what thinks float and what sinks for science. It was fun and she enjoys our one on one time together. We then went to the gym and daddy had the day off so they went swimming when I did an aerobics class. Enjoying the schedule, got a run and take Cathryn to gymnastics.
Finally done with our kitchen, just need new curtains and an area rug. I love my kitchen now.

New kitchen picture
Windows in eating area
new cabinets installed

old cabinets we removed and replace with above ones in the eating area


Old kitchen before picture



Saturday, September 5, 2009

Waiting 8 months

Tomorrow will be September 6 which means that we have been waiting for 8 months now, since being registered in Bulgaria. As we wait we are keeping busy with house projects. We are in the process of painting our kitchen (blue) and cabinets (cream with a glaze). A couple of months ago we moved Caroline into the guestroom and made it hers with a newly painted red dresser, red desk, and canopy over her bed. Calvin's room is waiting for curtains and a blue rug (this will be our next project after Christmas probably). We also put up the last 4 doors that we bought a few years back.

While we wait, we pray for you my sweet little boy. We pray for your protection until you come home to us. While we wait, we worship our heavenly Father and serve Him. Trying to wait patiently, faithfully.




Thursday, September 3, 2009

medical

Chris went and had his yearly physical for our homestudy last week Wednesday. His doctor had misplaced (lost) the form that needed to be filled out for our adoption agency. I had our social worker send us another one and Chris took it Tuesday to be filled out. Guess what, they still haven't done it for him. Once we get this form he is leaving that doctor's office and switching to mine. They are soo frustrating. Too big to give personal service! This will be the second day he calls to ask for them to fill it out so our social worker can finish our homestudy update.

I am trying to focus on other things such as painting our kitchen. We decided to adopt instead of getting new cabinets, granite countertops etc. So I am going to paint our cupboards, paint the wall and put up some nice curtains instead. I will post before and after pictures.
Caroline starts school next Tuesday, we are getting excited. She has also lost tooth #2, yesterday at her school picnic. Fun times.

Sunday, August 30, 2009

Bulgarian program info from; An Open Door Adoption Agency



Bulgaria Adoption Process:

The adoption process in Bulgaria offers a number of advantages over other Eastern European programs. First, it offers the opportunity to receive a referral prior to traveling to the country. Very young children may be adopted – from one year to older children and siblings. There is no upper age limit for adoptive parents, and travel to the country is two trips of seven and ten days respectively. The first trip is to meet the child and the second to complete the adoption.

The process begins with an application and supporting documents (a “dossier”) which the Bulgarian government uses to approve potential adoptive parents. Once approved, the family enters the Register of Candidate Adoptive Parents, a waiting list for a child of the requested age. Current waiting times by age are estimated to be:
  • Age 3 or less: 1 -2 years
  • Up to age 5: 1 year & 6 months
  • Up to age 7: 6 to 12 months
  • Above age 7: 2 to 6 months
  • Sp.needs/health prob: 6-12 months


As a child becomes available for the prospective adoptive parent/s, the Ministry of Justice will offer a referral of a child, including: personal information about the child: name and ID, health, ethnic, religious and cultural background, special needs, adoptability, family background and information about the birth parents and other family members including and reasons for abandonment and a photo. Bulgaria indicates that all adoptable children have some special need, although it may be mild or correctable. Families may specify a list of special needs they are willing to consider.

After a referral is selected, and the match is approved, an invitation to travel will be issued to the adoptive parent/s. A brief trip of seven days will then be made to meet the selected child, and after that another trip for 10 days is required to complete the adoption process. Our Bulgarian representative, an indigenous Bulgarian agency which is Hague Accredited by Bulgaria, will escort the adoptive parent/s throughout the adoption process. Communication with our representative is excellent and the Bulgarian process is very well defined as a politically stable and Hague country. Adoptions are expected to proceed smoothly.

We will be happy to assist you in this search for your child. If you feel led to adopt internationally, you can be assured that the Lord will lead you to the right child for your family. Thank you for your interest and for contacting An Open Door Adoption Agency. Please feel free to contact us at 229-228-6339 with any questions you may have.

Adoption Process

  • Application
  • Service Agreement
  • Home Study
  • US CIS Approval
  • Dossier sent to Bulgaria
  • Adoptable children are over 1 year of age
  • Waiting time varies with child’s age
  • Two trips: the first is for 7 days and the second for 10 days.

Adoptive Parent Criteria

  • No upper age limit for adoptive parents
  • Couples must be married 2 1/2 years
  • Previous divorce is acceptable
  • You may select the age and gender of the child.
  • You may have other children
  • The Agency seeks Christian adoptive parents

Friday, August 28, 2009

If you are leaving soon to pick up your child read this article

Adopting overseas? Ask for discount on airfare

HELP IN THE AIR | Some airlines secretive about specialty airfares

January 18, 2009

It's been drilled into our heads that the best way to get a cheap airline ticket is to buy it well in advance of your travel date.

But parents adopting children from overseas often have no idea when that date might be. And once their adoption agency gives them the go-ahead to bring home their child, they typically have only a matter of days to make all the arrangements.

Rather than get stuck paying a premium for last-minute tickets, parents can benefit from adoption airfare discounts. For example, Northwest Airlines "Special Delivery" program has benefits that include 65 percent off the price of full-fare coach tickets, open returns and no penalties for cancellations or changes. (Parents must show proof of U.S. residency and provide legal documentation of the adoption.) Details at Nwa.com/features/adopt.

Some 17,438 overseas adoptions by U.S. parents took place this fiscal year, according to U.S. State Department statistics.

Not all airlines are eager to publicize news about these special adoption fares. The media relations spokespeople for other major airlines either ignored our queries about discounted air fares for adoptive families or point blank said they didn't offer any. However, when we called the reservation lines for Delta, United and Cathay Pacific and questioned the customer service reps, they all said they offer discounted fares.

"Airlines are very secretive about specialty air fares," says Ed Perkins, contributing editor for Smartertravel.com. "They don't advertise them and they're just not going to tell you about them unless you specifically ask. So ask."

Perkins cautioned that consumers need to know the ramifications of their discounted tickets if they can't leave or return on the dates they booked. For instance, will the airline charge a premium to change a ticket if your child is too sick to fly on the date you've planned or if bureaucratic red tape is holding up your departure?

"Given how complex some of the airline policies can be, the best bet in some of these situations is to pay a travel agent to handle this for you," Perkins said. "He or she will have access to consolidator deals and will know which airline is offering the best fare. This is one case where it makes sense to pay someone to deal with the hassles for you."

Portland, Ore.,'s Azumano Travel American Express has been in business for 60 years working with corporate and leisure clients. For the past 15 years, they've also become one of the go-to travel agencies for adoptive parents booking flights overseas. Azumano has adoption fare contracts with a number of airlines, including Cathay Pacific, United, Delta and Northwest.

"A lot of our parents do their research and already have a general idea of what these flights should cost with a few weeks notice," says Erle D'Penha, an Azumano travel consultant. "They could probably do it themselves, but what they're paying us for is our knowledge, relationships and ability to get them seats when the online sites say they're all booked. Sometimes people will look online and won't see options to leave from the cities they want to, but we'll be able to find other hubs. The travel Web sites won't always look for all of those flights. We can help find more options."

Indeed, we gave Azumano dates for a hypothetical trip to Seoul, South Korea. We came up with a $3,000 economy fare with two days advance notice. Azumano came up with a nonstop flight on the same carrier for less than half that price.

Not all carriers offer discounted fares, but there are other ways to get around paying full price. Check to see if you have enough airline miles to use toward a ticket. When Yorkville's Andy and Irina Prutch traveled to Russia last year to bring home their adopted daughter, they were surprised to find that a one-way ticket for their child would cost more than a round-trip ticket. But they weren't allowed to purchase a round-trip ticket for her.

"It would've cost us almost $3,000 for a one-way ticket for our daughter," says Andy Prutch. "We ended up using my miles on American Airlines for her seat. My company's travel agent didn't charge us any fees, so we only paid $52.70 for her total airfare. It was definitely the way to go for us."

Also, it never hurts to be nice to the reservation clerks.

While Shannon Mogilinski of St. Charles didn't get any discounts, she did get an upgrade.

"When my husband and I traveled to Russia to adopt our daughter in 2003, we mentioned to the reservations clerk at British Airways that we were adopting a child and that we were carrying humanitarian aid to several orphanages," Mogilinski said. "She gave us a complimentary upgrade to business class. If we hadn't said anything, we would've been sitting in coach."

Jae-Ha Kim is a locally based free-lance writer.

Discrimination against Roma

Madonna booed in Bucharest for defending Gypsies

Associated Press - August 27, 2009 1:13 PM PDT

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Story photo: Madonna booed in Bucharest for defending GypsiesU.S. singer Madonna, center, performs during her concert in Bucharest, Romania, Wednesday, Aug. 26, 2009. The concert is part of Madonna's Sticky and Sweet Tour. (AP Photo/Vadim Ghirda)Associated Press

BUCHAREST, Romania - At first, fans politely applauded the Roma performers sharing a stage with Madonna. Then the pop star condemned widespread discrimination against Roma, or Gypsies — and the cheers gave way to jeers.

The sharp mood change that swept the crowd of 60,000, who had packed a park for Wednesday night's concert, underscores how prejudice against Gypsies remains deeply entrenched across Eastern Europe.

Despite long-standing efforts to stamp out rampant bias, human rights advocates say Roma probably suffer more humiliation and endure more discrimination than any other people group on the continent.

Sometimes, it can be deadly: In neighboring Hungary, six Roma have been killed and several wounded in a recent series of apparently racially motivated attacks targeting small countryside villages predominantly settled by Gypsies.

"There is generally widespread resentment against Gypsies in Eastern Europe. They have historically been the underdog," Radu Motoc, an official with the Soros Foundation Romania, said Thursday.

Roma, or Gypsies, are a nomadic ethnic group believed to have their roots in the Indian subcontinent. They live mostly in southern and eastern Europe, but hundreds of thousands have migrated west over the past few decades in search of jobs and better living conditions.

Romania has the largest number of Roma in the region. Some say the population could be as high as 2 million, although official data put it at 500,000.

Until the 19th century, Romanian Gypsies were slaves, and they've gotten a mixed response ever since: While discrimination is widespread, many East Europeans are enthusiastic about Gypsy music and dance, which they embrace as part of the region's cultural heritage.

That explains why the Roma musicians and a dancer who had briefly joined Madonna onstage got enthusiastic applause. And it also may explain why some in the crowd turned on Madonna when she paused during the two-hour show — a stop on her worldwide "Sticky and Sweet" tour — to touch on their plight.

"It has been brought to my attention ... that there is a lot of discrimination against Romanies and Gypsies in general in Eastern Europe," she said. "It made me feel very sad."

Thousands booed and jeered her.

A few cheered when she added: "We don't believe in discrimination ... we believe in freedom and equal rights for everyone." But she got more boos when she mentioned discrimination against homosexuals and others.

"I jeered her because it seemed false what she was telling us. What business does she have telling us these things?" said Ionut Dinu, 23.

Madonna did not react and carried on with her concert, held near the hulking palace of the late communist dictator Nicolae Ceausescu.

Her publicist, Liz Rosenberg, said Madonna and other had told her there were cheers as well as jeers.

"Madonna has been touring with a phenomenal troupe of Roma musicians who made her aware of the discrimination toward them in several countries so she felt compelled to make a brief statement," Rosenberg said in an e-mail. "She will not be issuing a further statement."

One Roma musician said the attitude toward Gypsies is contradictory.

"Romanians watch Gypsy soap operas, they like Gypsy music and go to Gypsy concerts," said Damian Draghici, a Grammy Award-winner who has performed with James Brown and Joe Cocker.

"But there has been a wave of aggression against Roma people in Italy, Hungary and Romania, which shows me something is not OK," he told the AP in an interview. "The politicians have to do something about it. People have to be educated not to be prejudiced. All people are equal, and that is the message politicians must give."

Nearly one in two of Europe's estimated 12 million Roma claimed to have suffered an act of discrimination over the past 12 months, according to a recent report by the Vienna-based EU Fundamental Rights Agency. The group says Roma face "overt discrimination" in housing, health care and education.

Many do not have official identification, which means they cannot get social benefits, are undereducated and struggle to find decent jobs.

Roma children are more likely to drop out of school than their peers from other ethnic groups. Many Romanians label Gypsies as thieves, and many are outraged by those who beg or commit petty crimes in Western Europe, believing they spoil Romania's image abroad.

In May 2007, Romanian President Traian Basescu was heard to call a Romanian journalist a "stinky Gypsy" during a conversation with his wife. Romania's anti-discrimination board criticized Basescu, who later apologized.

Human rights activists say the attacks in Hungary, which began in July 2008, may be tied to that country's economic crisis and the rising popularity of far-right vigilantes angered by a rash of petty thefts and other so-called "Gypsy crime." Last week, police arrested four suspects in a nightclub in the eastern city of Debrecen.

Bulgaria, the Czech Republic and Slovakia also have been criticized for widespread bias against Roma.

Madonna's outrage touched a nerve in Romania, but it seems doubtful it will change anything, said the Soros Foundation's Motoc.

"Madonna is a pop star. She is not an expert on interethnic relations," he said.

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AP Writers Alison Mutler in Bucharest, William J. Kole in Vienna and Nekesa Mumbi Moody in New York contributed to this report.