Friday, July 23, 2010

while we wait...

1. Caroline has finally conquered her fear of water in her face and is swimming under water. So proud of her. Now she is asking to take swimming lessons again.
2. Cathryn has mastered backstroke and freestyle. She is also reading at 1st grade level, at 5 years of age. We are proud of her too.
3. We have been attending a new church, and meeting 'new' friends. God is good all the time. It was very difficult for us to leave our friends at our other church but God's ways are always better than ours.
4.I am starting to knit little hats for the babies in Bulgaria's orphanages. When we finally get to go to Bulgaria i will leave these little hats at Calvin's orphanage. It makes me sad to think of these little ones cold, so hopefully these will keep their heads warm. My goal is to knit a hat a week. Once I get 30 hats done, I will be brave enough to knit little sweaters.
5.I have ordered all of Cathryn's curriculum to homeschool her this year for kindergarten. We will be doing 'handwritting without tears', math u see, All about spelling (reading program and spelling), and Bible.
6. We have been raspberry and strawberry picking. Love strawberry jam and raspberry pie. Blueberries are next.
7. Vacations coming soon, can't wait.
8. Missing and praying for Calvin. Praying for his safety, physically and emotionally. Praying for his birth mom to.

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

registered for 18 months today

Was informed by our agency this week that no referrals will be made during the months of July and August due to holidays in Bulgaria. Please pray with me that we get a referral in September. Have a great summer, we have plans to go to Gulf Shores and MAckinac Island this summer. Can't wait.

Thursday, July 1, 2010

Study done on adopted kids

Study: Kids Adopted From Abroad Adapt Well

By LINDSEY TANNER, AP Medical Writer Wed May 25,11:26 AM ET

CHICAGO - The scenario is increasingly common — eager parents adopt children born in hardship an ocean away, hoping to create a cohesive family against seemingly daunting odds.

And yet, children adopted from abroad seem to adjust remarkably well, according to a new study that challenges the widely held notion that these youngsters are badly damaged emotionally and prone to disruptive behavior.

The analysis of more than 50 years of international data found youngsters adopted from abroad are only slightly more likely than nonadopted children to have behavioral problems such as aggressiveness and anxiety. And they actually seem to have fewer problems than children adopted within their own countries.

"The first years of life should not be considered as inevitable destiny. On the contrary, most children grab the new chance offered to them," said researchers Femmie Juffer and Marinus H. van IJzendoorn of Leiden University in the Netherlands.

The results are generally reassuring for international adoption — a growing trend involving more than 40,000 children a year moving among more than 100 countries, the researchers said.

"Our findings may help them fight the stereotype that is often associated with international adoption," the researchers said.

The study appears in Wednesday's

Journal of the American Medical Association.

The authors pooled results from 137 studies on adoptions by parents living in the United States, Canada, Europe, Australia, New Zealand and Israel.

The analysis involved studies on adoption between 1950 and 2005, involving more than 30,000 adoptees and more than 100,000 nonadopted children.

During that time, adoption has evolved from being a "shameful secret" to being celebrated and often very visible, especially with the relatively recent phenomenon of white parents adopting Chinese children, according to a JAMA editorial by Dr. Laurie C. Miller of Tufts-New England Medical Center. In the United States alone, parents have adopted more than 230,000 children from other countries since 1989, she said.

Miller said sensationalized stories about severely disturbed children adopted from abroad have been widespread in the media, which may have skewed perceptions of these children.

In the study, behavior problems were relatively uncommon in all groups studied, but adopted children in general had more of them than nonadopted youngsters, regardless of where the adoption took place. That is not surprising, since both groups often suffer deprivation and come from broken families.

Internationally adopted children had a 20 percent higher chance of being disruptive than nonadopted children, and a 10 percent higher chance of being anxious or withdrawn. They also were twice as likely as nonadopted children to receive mental health services — results that the authors said were much better than expected given these children's often troubled early start in life.

The results might reflect the parents who adopt foreign children, said Dr. Gregory Plemmons of Vanderbilt University's clinic for international adoptees. These parents often are high-achieving and financially well-off, and tend to seek out services like counseling for their children, Plemmons said.

Children adopted within their own countries had an 36 percent higher chance of being anxious or withdrawn than the international adoptees did, and a 50 percent higher chance of being aggressive or disruptive, the study found.

These children were four times more likely than nonadopted children and twice as likely as internationally adopted children to receive mental health services. Also, domestically adopted youngsters had a 60 percent higher chance of having behavior problems than nonadopted children.

Plemmons theorized that children adopted domestically might suffer from the instability of living with different foster families before getting adopted.

Sunday, June 27, 2010

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Educate yourself about HIV + virus

http://positivelyorphaned.org/

Great site to learn about the medicine they have these days and how the virus is NOT transmitted. Why hasn't the public been educated about this since the 1980's. Why do these people have to live a secret, because we can't educate ourselves? I am glad my eyes have been opened, if anything, through this journey.

Sunday, June 6, 2010

Registered for 17 months

To put it into perspective, our neighbor has had a baby girl since we started our adoption and is pregnant again due in December/January. Two children conceived before we have had our referral. This is not for the weary hearted for sure. And this is most certainly the longest pregnancy I have ever had! We were originally told 9-18 months for a boy. Warning, if you are considering adopting form Bulgaria it is more likely to be 24-36 months for any healthy child under 5 years old. So does that mean we are half way or nearly there? If only I knew.
A few months back I was looking at reecesrainbow site (special needs children) and saw a boy who was 3 years old, blonde and blue eyes with HIV. I really wanted to bring him home but after talking with Chris and a girlfriend thought it wouldn't be wise, mainly because of the prejudice he would receive as people really aren't educated about the HIV virus, myself included. http://positivelyorphaned.org/waiting-children/Did you know it isn't spread through coughing, sneezing, saliva...only through sexual intercourse fluids. Families don't get Aids by living with a family member with the virus. Anyway, today I found more info on the virus and felt if his picture was still on the site,I would talk with Chris about him more. But he isn't there anymore, which is great for him, I have been praying someone would adopt him. So sad to think these kids with the virus are in an orphanage and not adopted because they have this virus. With medicine today they can live to see their grandchildren. Praying we get a referral soon and move on with our lives. 17 months and counting.

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Overwhelmed and humbled

Each Wednesday we receive an update from Abba as to how much money has come in for our adoption from friends and family. We got an update today and I was very humbled by the amount. Thank you so much for your generous gifts to bring our son home. Thank you Lord for always providing and encouraging us through this journey. Now if only we would get a referral!
*** We did hear back from ShowHope and they turned us down due to too many applicants and not enough funds.